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Leadership

There are so many new and exciting ways of defining and understanding leadership that are emerging, or perhaps just becoming more well known. I believe our understanding of leadership now and in the future will play a key role in determining the future state of the planet. The best part about this is that once we move beyond the notion of ‘leaders’ and ‘followers’, we can begin to realize the potential for leadership within every person that we meet, including ourselves… we can all be leaders, simultaneously leading each other in different ways.

I was asked to share my personal story of leadership at a Regional Leadership Training Summit taking place out at UBC this weekend. The Summit is being organized by 2 groups involved in the campus climate movement in BC: goBEYOND Campus Climate Network and Common Energy UBC.

I was asked to speak on my experience as a leader, how I grew into the role, what keeps me going, how I’ve grown, etc. I chose not to talk about leadership so much in the traditional sense of having ‘this’ job title, or ‘that’ position within an organization. Instead, I decided I wanted to talk about this new kind of leadership, the leadership that applies to everyone, everywhere, and how to apply it to our every day lives.

I also wanted to share this with more people, like you.

Being one of those people who think best by writing, I wrote out what I planned to say during the talk beforehand. I’ve copied and pasted some of this below. I found it really useful to reflect on what leadership means to me, and in what ways I strive to be a leader in my own life. I think this differs for everyone, which is why it would be a useful exercise for all people to reflect on their own personal leadership.

I hope you will find these points useful in developing your own skills as a leader – no matter what you are doing in life.

Leadership
-I thought I could stand up here and tell you about the different leadership roles I’ve had in the past, and my experiences with that, but I didn’t think that would be as useful to you, because everyone leads in a different way.
-There’s often the belief that we need to be given a specific leadership job or role to play within an organization before we consider ourselves a leader.
-The truth is, we all have the ability to lead, no matter what we are doing. So we don’t need to strive for that leadership position and think, ‘then, I will be a leader’. Or ‘one day, I will be a leader’. We can all start to lead right now.
-True leadership is not about the what, but rather, it’s about the how.
-So there’s the what leader (in a management position, etc.), and there is the how leader
-Another word for the ‘how’ leader could be the quiet leader (who’s heard of quiet leadership?) and another word for the ‘what’ leader could be the authoritative leader (more dominating and telling people what to do/giving specific directions)
-The two are not mutually exclusive.
-So what does being a ‘how’ leader look like?

1) Having a strong network (social and professional) –> in other words, it’s all about relationships. Every time you meet someone new it is an opportunity to lead. The more people in your network, the more people you are able to engage in your passions and inspire others — both for themselves, and for your own passions.

2) Listening –> listen to people when they talk, try to understand their thought processes and their perspectives. Be open minded and willing to learn from them – even if you are sure you are right.

3) Willingness to stretch –> out of comfort

4) Embracing change –> not resisting

5) Always looking for more –> continuous thirst for knowledge and learning

6) Taking initiative

7) Believing in your abilities

8) Self-awareness –> listen to yourself, recognize the changes that happen within you, and support yourself.

If you follow these ‘how’ leadership practices… you will likely find yourself in ‘what’ leadership positions. You become the leader first, and the positions will follow. Building your network is key, but so are all of the other things – when you display such ‘how’ leadership qualities, other people will want to be around you and have you lead, because you will simultaneously be facilitating their own growth as a leader.

-My hope is that you can all take these points on ‘how’ leadership and apply them to your work in sustainability. You could even refer to ‘how’ leadership as ‘sustainable’ leadership – because this is the kind of leadership that lasts beyond any sort of title or job position you are given.

I want to end with a quote by John Quincy Adams:

“If your actions inspire others to dream more, learn more, do more and become more, you are a leader.”

Discussion questions on this quote (taken from the book Tri-namics: Provocative Questions for Leadership Wisdom by Debbie Payne & Erna Hagge):

a) What do I do for myself that stimulates me to dream more, learn more, and become more?

b) What do I do for others that stimulate them to dream more, learn more and become more?

c) What do I want to do with this information?

**A BIG thank you to Debbie Payne and her wonderful definition of what leadership means to her, which inspired many of these thoughts.

-Becca

Do What You Love

The only way to do great work is to love what you do. If you haven’t found it yet, keep looking. Don’t settle. As with all matters of the heart, you’ll know when you find it.

- Steve Jobs -

Steve Jobs passed away this last week on October 5th, 2011. I wanted to share this outstanding quote about doing what you love.

Doing what you love will bring greater joy to your life than money ever will.

Steve Jobs really knew where it was at. He is a great example of someone who lived a fulfilling life in every regard. He showed us that people might laugh, or think you are going nowhere, but if you continue to follow your heart you will become successful.

It’s fun to note that he was also a vegetarian and liked to grow a lot of his own food.

-Becca

The Hokey Pokey

Continuing on the quest to find not money, but the things that money can bring…

As I’ve written before, I do not believe that our environmental problems will be solved to the degree necessary simply by changing environmental policy, starting the right social programs, or electing the right politicians. This is because such changes would not be possible, or sustainable, without some necessary inner changes happening first.

Our environmental problems run so much deeper than a couple of lousy politicians (ok, maybe more than a couple), outdated laws, or certain individuals not carrying re-usable coffee mugs. Policy decisions and the actions of all people – including both you and I – are merely a reflection of our inner state. A large part of what our environmental dilemma comes down to is where we are as individuals in terms of our self-awareness about what we truly desire.

One of our greatest desires as humans is love; to love and to be loved. Perhaps one of the greatest misconceptions, however, is that money can buy love (whether we are aware of this belief or not).

Money = security = happy and healthy family = lifetime supply of love… right?

Possibly – although this certainly isn’t fail-safe. So I wonder, is there a more guaranteed route to our lifetime supply of love?

On my most recent birthday (ahhh, 24!!), I learned something important about love. I learned that there is so much love around us if we are open to it. This past birthday I felt so special and felt so much love from my friends and family that I was about to burst. I have probably gotten the same amount of attention every year for my birthday, but I had never been as open to it, or as appreciative.

I can remember two years ago when I went out with some friends for my birthday and all I could focus on were the friends that had not shown up – and I failed to give my full attention and gratitude to those who had made the effort to come.

Everyone has someone in their life who loves them. It doesn’t matter how many people, and it doesn’t matter in what form. What matters is that it’s there, and that it’s real.

What made this most recent birthday so much better was the fact that I was focusing on the people who were there celebrating with me, and I was open to the love I was receiving. The best part is that getting so much love made me want to give more. And I am.

Since my birthday I have been putting in a conscious effort to tell people in my life how much I love and appreciate them. And on and on it goes…

Don’t hold back on telling someone how much you love and value them. It always feels great and inspires people to be the best they can be. And never under-value the love that you are given, thinking that it is not enough. Just let it fill you up. Knowing we are loved we will feel secure and ready to go out into the world to make a difference, rather than trying to find security solely through money.

I can guarantee that the more love you give, and the more open you are to receiving it, the more love you will get. And that, my friends, is what the hokey pokey is all about.

ACTION IDEA

Tell five people today how much you love them, care for them, appreciate them, value them… however you want to put it. Keep telling five people every week and see what happens…

-Becca

Ps – I love you!

Number One

Do you ever feel like you are being pulled left, right, center, up, down and sideways?

Me too.

I came home this evening feeling worked up and scattered. I headed straight for my room.

Time to recuperate.

Even though I have purposely made it so that I have a lot of free time in my life, I still somehow find myself with a lot to do. I often find myself in that reactionary state of rapidly completing things on my “to do” list.

I’m just not present.

Creating TIME isn’t the only solution to this problem (so I’m learning). I still get to this place where I desperately need to just chill out.

Smell the flowers. Look around. Feel alive.

Finally, alone in my room, I sit down to meditate; then, a knock on the door. “House meeting… only time we are all together… must be now… “

“Nope. Sorry, need this time by myself. That’s priority number one.”

After saying that, I realized I felt kind of good. I felt surprisingly empowered sticking up for myself like that, even though I was letting other people down. I realized this is because you aren’t contributing anything to anyone if you aren’t in the right state of mind when you’re doing whatever you’re doing.

Have you ever been spending time with someone but you knew they weren’t completely there? Perhaps you could tell their mind was wandering even though they were pretending to be listening, or they didn’t remember your name right after you told them. Everyone has experienced and/or practiced this at some point. We all know that it’s no fun to spend time with someone who isn’t fully there.

No matter what we are doing – whether it’s working at a desk, volunteering, or meeting up with our family – we can’t contribute fully if we are in a disheveled state. In fact, sometimes we may even become a liability to a situation, causing more harm than good, if we’re in a foggy mindset.

Prioritizing time for ourselves, above everything else, is one thing we can all do to help ourselves, the people around us, and whatever cause we are working towards.

ACTION

Next time you are feeling worked up, stressed, scattered, or whatever you like to call it, drop everything you are doing, find a quiet place where you can be alone, and take a break to recuperate. Make this your number one priority. Don’t be tempted to convince yourself you will do it later. If you have a lot on your mind that you don’t want to forget, write down a list and then don’t think about it anymore until your break is over.

I truly believe that personal sustainability comes first, and that environmental sustainability will follow naturally. We all have a true purpose, and it’s just as simple as creating the space to find it. Prioritizing that break to clear your mind will create the space you need to make the right choices with how you spend the time that you do have.

I’ve changed my tagline, and I’m re-vamping my blog.

I would still like this blog to “to trigger thought, and challenge ideas about current environmental issues and their solutions”, but I want to shift the focus to “where the personal meets the environmental”.

Change has to start from within. The personal is the spiritual is the environmental is the political. Everything that happens at the personal scale is magnified on the political, economic, and environmental scale.

I’ve blogged before about the need for Visioning, and how whatever we resist will persist. This is true for both the personal and the political – no matter what our cause. I’ve also blogged more recently about Time and how creating more of this will not only improve our own lives, but help the environment as well.

To take another example, I want to look at the answer to a very important question. What drives most environmental destruction?

Money.

What drives the desire for money?

The things that money can buy.

In other words, we don’t want money per se, but we want the things that money can bring. On the surface we might think that the things we want are power and friends and beautiful houses and tropical vacations… but take it one level deeper and…

Don’t we all want the same thing in the end?

Love. Acceptance. A sense of purpose.

Are these not at the root of every being’s intention for belonging to a religion? A cult? A club?

If this is the end to be met, then there are plenty of other, more successful, means to get there. The belief that ‘money can buy happiness’ has become outdated.

We are constantly learning from past mistakes, and evolving. It’s time to move forward. We live in a time of ‘systems thinking’, where nothing can be looked at in isolation, and everything is interconnected. How we live our inner lives and whether or not we seek true fulfillment and an authentic existence, does affect the planet; through our actions, our choices, and our words.

This one’s a little elusive, but an introduction to a new concept I will be focusing on in my blogging. Future blogs will be reflections on my own experimentations with living and how these things relate to building a sustainable future, which I hope will also be helpful to YOU on your own journey. I intend to make it full of lots of practical ideas for action as well… so stay tuned!

Becca

Time

How does time relate to sustainability? Read on to find out! 

 

I can breathe! There is no greater gift.

A few weeks ago I had the realization that I don’t have to be busy. I don’t have to be stressed. I don’t have to get through this stuff now so I can relax in the future. If I’m not making changes in my life right now to ensure that I’m happy with the present, then what’s the point?

Of life, that is.

I’m starting to break down in the most beautiful way. I’m focusing less on doing and more on being. I’m thinking less and feeling more. I’m following my heart, and all the signs are telling me that it’s right. I’m becoming more aware of that nagging voice in my mind telling me what I should be doing, and I’m following my gut instead.

It’s scary at times, but WOW, is it ever fun! My body is buzzing with aliveness. I wake up in the morning feeling free. I come home in the afternoon and declare, “I love my life”.

What’s changed?

Time.

I have more of it. I’m down to working 15 hours per week, three hours per day. I quit what I had been convincing myself for months was my dream job, because I realized it wasn’t making me happy.

I’m being more creative.

I’m thinking up ideas about books I want to write, blogs I want to start, and the type of business I want to build. I’ve started writing music and playing my guitar again. I’m thinking about how I want to live my life, and I’m realizing all the possibilities that exist.

I’m slowing down.

When I talk to people, I look them in the eye and I truly listen. I’m not thinking about where I need to be or what I need to do next. When I’m walking somewhere, I pay attention to everything happening around me and I smile at the people I walk past.

I’m excited about life.

Life doesn’t have to be busy or stressful, filled up with all the things I tell myself I should be doing, or want to check off my list.

I’m facing my fears.

I might feel lonely or unimportant with all this time on my hands. I might come across as sounding lazy, boring, or unambitious to some people that I meet. If that’s the case, I’m just going to have to learn to love myself more – in all circumstances.

I’m leaving my comfort zone.

Having more time is encouraging me to get out and try new things. Over the past three weeks I have taken windsurfing lessons, sailing lessons, and I attended my very first improv class! I feel that every time I try something new I come out a stronger person, and I learn to love myself a little bit more.

I’m relaxed.

I’m getting 8 hours of sleep every night. I feel balanced, and less likely to burn out and spend three days straight watching Gossip Girl (yes, I admit, I’ve been there).

I’m living more sustainably!

I’m working a lot in the garden, and making things from scratch: from bread and almond milk to cleaning and hygiene products. With these new skills I know I’ll never need to work a lot, because I’m doing things myself that I would otherwise have to buy. I feel empowered, productive with my time, and more connected to the things I am consuming. The more I make from scratch, the healthier I am eating, the less waste I am producing, the lower my carbon footprint, and the fewer chemicals I come into contact with.

Slowing down seems to be a crucial step towards peace and joy in life, as well as a crucial step towards a sustainable planet. If we are enjoying our day to day lives at a relaxed pace, we are less likely to seek those quick escapes – whether it be TV, alcohol, drugs, or shopping.

 

Slowin’ down…

 

Ahhhhhhh…

 

Time to go drink a beer on the porch :)

One of the many cool aspects of my new job with the High School Climate Challenge is that I get to train Olympic, Paralympic, and National athletes to give presentations about climate change to High School students. I felt very honoured this past February to be training three amazing female athletes. We all shared in a bonding moment and a laugh when I pointed out the fact that I was STOKED to be training three females.

It’s in these moments, when we recognize our common femininity, that we realize how deeply connected and how powerful we are as women. Our power may be subtle and humble, but women hold such incredible strength that it gives me chills! And our power is emerging more and more all the time.

When I talk of power here, I am not talking of power in the traditional, more masculine, sense of the word. I am not talking about power over others, or domination. I am talking about the power of self, the strength of the will of the individual; the power to love freely, and to surrender openly. I am talking about the power to nurture, to cry, to laugh, and to feel ALL of our emotions fully without feeling embarrassed or ashamed.

Powerful women have not simply adapted to taking on the characteristics of men. Instead, powerful women are offering something new to their jobs and their everyday lives: compassionate, multi-faceted, and holistic approaches to the challenges and problems they face. Powerful women are assertive, but not forceful. They are accepting of what life hands them, and capitalize on what they have. Powerful women help others to reach their goals and to find their passions without thinking competitively. Powerful women value the strength of collectivity.

The best part about powerful women is that to them, it’s not about women versus men. It’s about living out their true purpose, and in so doing bringing the feminine back into this world in a way that may be respected and loved. It is not about the body that anyone lives in, it is about bringing the other half of the pie back into the equation so that it can become whole again. We can see some powerful men emerging as well. Powerful women and powerful men alike serve to strike a balance between the masculine and the feminine.  Both value the strengths of masculine characteristics, while also valuing the often forgotten and undervalued strengths of the feminine.

Here is a video I wanted to share by Women Win, addressing gender-based violence through sport. They are helping women to gain confidence, to gain strength, and to recognize their power through sport.

On this International Women’s Day, let’s also not forget those males whose lives are often threatened or made too unbearable to continue living, because they do not conform to the rigid “male” role that has been forced upon them.

Women, we have the power that can never fail because it is within us. Let’s not hold back. Let’s step forward to be the leaders that this world so desperately needs! Lots of love to all women on this wonderful day!

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